What should I do

[555]

My bf and I have been dating for 2yrs
For the first year I saw him all the time, spent a ton of time at his house, and we just saw each other a lot.

About a year ago his 4yr old daughter moved in with him and since then I've barely been to his house, and mostly I only get to see him after he gets off of work, before he goes home.

He's made plans for me to meet his daughter quite a few times, but every time they fall through last minute. And in about Jan. or Feb. he asked me if I'd like to move in (after meeting his kid) by my birthday (which is this weekend)
But I have yet to meet his daughter, and I obviously can't move in without knowing her.

I told him if he broke this plan I would leave him (because he breaks a lot of plans with me)
But He has been having a lot of issues with his daughter's mother, and I just don't know what to do.
I want to stay with him, and meet his daughter and move in with him. But I feel like he just keeps blowing me off, and I've tried everything I can think of to try to get through to him. I've tried just being patient, and understanding, but some of the things he does, and the reasons for not doing things that he gives me seem so stupid...

Any help, advice, or opinions are appreciated.
Thank you

[jerseyboy]

He is clearly blowing you off and has some kind of issues with you meeting his daughter. To be honest it sounds like he doesn't want it to happen and he is stringing you along.

I would just lay out to him clear as day.... Set a time so that I can meet her and that you both can move forward in your relationship.... or you will have to end things because you don't want to be treated like a second class citizen when you are in a relationship with someone.

[lauralove]

Yes this man clearly doesn't sound like he's serious and may just be stringing you along. I would tell him how you feel and let him know that you are willing to walk away if he isn't serious about your relationship. I have been here before with guys believe me... the longer you drag it out, the worse it is

[crashoverride]

As a guy I can tell you that he isn't 100% committed to you. I would have a serious talk with him.

[jerseyboy]

We all agree lol!

[Regional Hotties "Jill"]

Well I'll b damned...we're all on the same page!

Are you ready to make him AND his baggage a part of your life? If you are ready to move in with him and be a potential step-mother, let him know. Remember, if there are issues with his daughter's mother, there could be some backlash. As the others have said, I would recommend having a stern talk with him and tell him how insignificant his canceling plans makes you feel. Let him know you support him doing what's right for his daughter, but if he truly loved you, he would make it work with you, too.