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Post by Regional Hotties "Jill" on Feb 20, 2011 12:06:43 GMT -5
Carlos, I didn't say waiting until marriage CAUSES divorce. But I have known of a few people who were very strong in their belief to wait until marriage. The courtship was swift, they were married quickly, only to find it really wasn't love after all and got divorced. Perhaps they rushed into the marriage so they could consummate.
As for my lifestyle choices, I live with my boyfriend and yes we have sex. We are committed to each other, but I don't need a piece of paper to prove that to feel good about myself. I am just fine with my lifestyle choices.
The "negative" society isn't just a result of "Immoral" behavior. It's a result of technology, longer lifespans, drugs, weapons, etc.
And if your belief is based on religion, I'd like to remind you that kindness and acceptance are much better things to preach than judgment and hate.
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Post by crashoverride on Mar 3, 2011 21:50:34 GMT -5
On the opposite end of that spectrum Carlos, I feel that there are people who feel SO strongly about waiting until they are married to have sex, that they rush into marriage, ultimately ending in divorce. As we evolve and the world changes, certain acts don't carry the same damning stigma as they did 100 - 1000 years ago. I think everyone just has to do what is right for them. This is absolutely absurd Jill. Waiting for marriage to have sex causes divorces?!?!?!?!??!?!?!??!?!?! You need to stop living in a fantasy world trying to justify your immoral behavior. You dont have to listen to me but just look at the statistics. People who wait for marriage have a lower divorce rate period. Its easy for you to say that the world is evolving and acts dont mean the same but look at how negative it has become because of this! The divorce rate is higher than ever, there are a lot of rampant diseases. wake up and see reality jill Can you post some of these so called "stats"? I hear people everyday claim what statistics say... yet I rarely see them published. Don't believe everything you hear
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Post by carlos on Mar 15, 2011 18:06:58 GMT -5
Carlos, I didn't say waiting until marriage CAUSES divorce. But I have known of a few people who were very strong in their belief to wait until marriage. The courtship was swift, they were married quickly, only to find it really wasn't love after all and got divorced. Perhaps they rushed into the marriage so they could consummate. As for my lifestyle choices, I live with my boyfriend and yes we have sex. We are committed to each other, but I don't need a piece of paper to prove that to feel good about myself. I am just fine with my lifestyle choices. The "negative" society isn't just a result of "Immoral" behavior. It's a result of technology, longer lifespans, drugs, weapons, etc. And if your belief is based on religion, I'd like to remind you that kindness and acceptance are much better things to preach than judgment and hate. So you are not only fornicating but you are also living with a male without being married?? That is just a recipe for disaster I am sorry. We can put the moral aspect to it aside. You must be nieve because without a commitment your boyfriend could leave at any moment. It may not be all your fault Jill. Maybe you grew up with good parental role models. I think you all need to read this article www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/preparing_for_marriage/why_wait_for_sex/risk_factors_for_premarital_sex.aspx
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Post by Regional Hotties "Jill" on Mar 21, 2011 17:20:58 GMT -5
Carlos, I am extremely curious why someone who stresses marriage then sex is regularly perusing a forum like Regional Hotties. Everyone is entitled to their views and opinions, but I don't think you're here to listen, only judge and try to make us all "see the light". The main page is basically objectifying beautiful girls and the subject matter of the forum is dating/sex. So why are you here? Seems like you're in the wrong place. Looking at beautiful women isn't bad for a married man?
That said, yes I fornicate AND live with a man! I have been with the same man for 13.5 years. We are together and happy. I'm not naive that he can't leave me. I'm just secure in the relationship that he isn't. Hell, I could leave at any moment. But I'm not. People quit on marriages just as easily, it just isn't as cheap or easy to do! As I said before, I don't need a piece of paper that says "I'm married". I am surrounded by loving, healthy couples in my family and THEY'RE all happy that I'm happy. They don't care if I'm not spending money on a wedding.
I read the article. I am not a teenager. I'm a big girl, capable of making my own life decisions. Nothing you can say will make me go abstinent until my bf "puts a ring on it". Thanks for playing, though!
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Post by carlos on Mar 28, 2011 10:26:50 GMT -5
yes Jill. I have the right to my opinion on the matter. People in my parish have abstained from sexual intercourse until they are married. Do you want to guess how many divorces there have been?
of course you will make your own decisions. God gives us all choice. You are choosing wrong and I fear the consequences for you.
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